How Many People Do You Need In Life?
Proverbs 18
KJV
24+ A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.
Proverbs 27
KJV
10+ Thine own friend, and thy father's friend, forsake not; neither go into thy brother's house in the day of thy calamity: for better is a neighbour that is near than a brother far off.
The writer of the above scriptures wrote from experience, the wise should understand and take it to heart!
He is extolling the fact that you don’t need many around you to enjoy life, if in doubt ask your father who is above 60 years! It is not about how many people you have surrounding you, it is about the quality.
Quality joy, quality happiness, is not a direct function of the many but the few that surround you. A man with fewer but sincere and genuine friends is better off than one with many hypocrites around
It is not about “ fans” but “ family “ Of trusted people!
When I lived in England I noticed strangely though how some are passionate about keeping animals as friends. Dogs wear specially sewn cover coats, eat good food, and sleep in the same bed with their owners.
Initially, I was stunned and wondered why. It was later when l threw myself wholly into the ocean of humans and saw the infighting, bickering, Envy, jealousy, gossip etc that I realized how wise these men are.
Dogs and cats don’t gossip, they don’t betray their masters, they are faithful and loyal to them! .
These men kept a few genuine friends with whom they shared and enjoyed their lives. They shut out noise so they can listen to quality chat and conversation. Sika mpè dedè! Quality enjoyment is not about noise but serenity.
Have you asked why few play or watch golf while the majority play or watch football? There are differences in enjoyment! Come to think of it, when you die how many people will we need to carry your coffin? 4!
To be blunt, the more people you have in your life the more problems and challenges you face. The fewer the quieter and lesser the problems and challenges! This is not selfishness but peace of mind.
So, if some throws you out of their company rejoice and be thankful. Our desire is to be found in the company of a few sincere and genuine friends. If you find such people don’t let them go! I’m looking for them!
A thought.